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Impact on Children Part 1: Genetics of Sex Addiction
As clinicians we know that the sex addict doesn’t fall too far from the family tree. Or as a friend of mine put it: “Sex addiction comes barreling down the generations like a locomotive!” So...
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Sexual Mindfulness: What Goes on in Your Head During Sex?
If you are not a sex addict, your mind may roam to a million different places during sex with a partner, including being completely “into” the experience of your partner. You may be completely devoid...
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Telling Your Story: 5 Ways Writing is Essential to Recovery
Writing is a hugely important tool for those in recovery from chemical dependency, sex addiction and for emotional growth and recovery in general. Writing about yourself is a form of self-care but it...
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Should You Choose Treatment or Therapy for Sex Addiction?
Many sex addicts try therapy first. Although it may be appropriate for some sexual problems, conventional forms of psychotherapy alone don’t address sexual addiction effectively. It has long been...
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6 Ways Recovering Alcoholics Deny Sex and Intimacy Issues
Many recovering alcoholics and drug addicts have problems with their sexual and relationship life. Even though they have been in 12-step recovery, they may still have problems with intimate relating....
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How Mindfulness Practice is Basic to Recovery
Mindfulness practice is an important part of all addiction recovery but it is even more important in sex addiction recovery. In staying away from drugs and alcohol there are often specific external...
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A Culture of Violence: Football, Porn and Vicarious Aggression
“The addiction to violence in America is nearly erotic.” That’s a stunning quote from Michael Eric Dyson, a Georgetown University professor and regular TV commentator. It was striking to see...
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Compulsive Self-Deprivation: Addiction’s Silent Partner
We think of addicts as supremely self-indulgent, and sex addicts especially so. But every sex addict has an opposite tendency toward self deprivation. In their acting out behavior sex addicts are...
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A Smart New Year’s Resolution: Learn to be a Better Friend
Being a good friend can be a serious challenge for all addicts. Drug addicts and alcoholics may have “drug buddies” or “drinking buddies,” and sex addicts have acting out (sexual) partners. But...
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Growing up around Sex Addiction: Impact on Children Part 2
Family dysfunction Sex addiction in a parent means there is family dysfunction and sexual dysfunction in the environment of the child. This in turn impacts families and places children at risk for many...
View ArticleBook Review: Reflective Meditations Unraveling My Trauma By Audrey Tait MS
Trauma and addiction go hand in hand. Recent research points to the conclusion that all addictions, drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, etc, share common patterns in neurobiology, genetics and childhood...
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Work can be Hazardous to Your Recovery: the Case for Doing Less
Should we really keep busy? Addicts are often very hard workers despite their addiction. Alcoholics, drug addicts, sex addicts, gamblers and over-eaters are sometimes “over-achievers,” driving...
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When Love Addicts Fall for Sex Addicts
As a therapist I have noticed that partners of sex addicts frequently have characteristics of love addicts. This is not always the case of course. Partners of sex addicts may be innocent bystanders....
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Amazing Message from a Sex Addict in Prison
Brad (fake name) is a sex addict/sex offender currently serving a 9 year prison sentence in federal prison. We have written back and forth for the last couple of years since he first started his...
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Men Want More Sex Than Their Wives
It’s not just sex addicts, all men really want more sex Yes, it’s official. Well, sort of… In a quick scan of the subject I found that there is some skepticism about the extent to which men want more...
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Why “Boundaries” are so Important
In sex addiction treatment and in therapy in general, we talk a lot about people needing to have good “boundaries.” (Take the quiz on relationship boundaries.) Boundaries are limits on what you will...
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5 Ways Sex Addicts Can Hijack Therapy
Therapy can be too intimate for a sex addict Sex addicts present their own particular pitfalls for a therapist. Sex addicts by definition have some kind of intimacy disability. They have been unable...
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Porn as Good Therapy
What are the underlying reasons men need porn? While looking through a classic collection of articles by men called Men Confront Pornography (1990, Kimmel, M. S. Ed.) which I thought might help my sex...
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What is a Victim Role?
Being a “victim” has a bad name. When we call some one a victim it’s like we’re saying they are a whiner, that they lack backbone. But being stuck in a victim role is far more complicated than that....
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Too Good-Looking, Too Smart, or Too Rich (to Recover from Sex Addiction)
There is an old recovery saying that you can’t get sober if you are too smart, too rich or too good-looking. Anyone working with sex addicts knows that these attributes can sometimes present...
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